A girl and her Hair :My Natural hair Journey

My Journey to hair-ceptance

Recently there has been a movement geared towards women of African descent not using relaxers to alter their natural hair texture.

Some people are all for it, while some people not on board because they say it’s too stressful.

I don’t use relaxers on my hair anymore. Here’s why(the long version).

The beginning

The fact that i am a very self conscious person, makes me worry about what people think of me a lot. It is getting better now ,it used to be way worse before.

When I was 9 years old ,I got into my first year of secondary school. It was difficult to say the least, because all my time had been spent mostly with my siblings .

Obviously, I was the youngest in my class, I preferred to play with Junior students because they were my age.My own class mates were interested in boys, tights and periods,me,i just wanted to play ‘Catcher’.

I used to think I was very ugly, and it wasn’t until 2008 that I finally gained some self esteem.  (side note: one of the boys in my class told me years later that I was amongst the finest girls class ,but let’s not focus on that).

Most of my time was spent trying to fit in and trying to make sure I was deemed mature. So I could be involved in things and not just be the smart, tinrin gbeku, glasses girl.

If I could tell my past self anything it would be to tell anyone who called me childish to shove off because I was still a child.

Discovery and Decision

I am almost ashamed to say this but i didn’t know that not relaxing your hair was an option.I thought leaving it natural was something that only deeper life people did because they were weird.

The person who inspired me was  my friend that did her big chop and I really loved her hair. By that time I was already frustrated with my own mane’s problems. It was a limp lifeless thing that I hated.

I transitioned, I was afraid of looking strange but I kept my head high. When my hair came in, I was Sooooooo happy. My ‘Fro had weight, it felt healthy, in fact my afro was one in town😁

Reminiscing

It’s been a long journey for that unsure, insecure and immature girl who prayed that people would like her. She prepared conversation in her head for whatever new school (I went to 4 secondary schools) ,she was going to.

Embracing my natural hair was a biiiig part of it of how confident I am today. Obviously I am not saying I am completely there yet but I am taking GIANT steps.

I am writing this because I started a new regimen on November 30.It should be for a 3 month trial period and I was just reminiscing on how far I have come.God has to take all the glory for that.

“I love my natural hair because it is a gift that we black women have” -Lola Atobatele

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Some of my favorite natural hair blogs include Black Girl Long Hair, Curl Centric, Craving Yellow.

What are some of yours?
Do you have any hair tips or hair journey stories? Please share in the comments.

A Simple and Truthful Guide to Making Coconut Oil 2

Hi guys, welcome to part 2 of our epic journey to make Coconut oil, because we are smart 🙋. ​Check out Part 1.

I realized something on my journey to make the oil, I got 3 other awesome products,I will highlight them as we go on.So here are the rest of the steps please enjoy.

Step 6:Blend the chopped Coconut flesh.

Here you have to eyeball things,the coconut shavings will not blend on its own so you have to add water, not too much though.So when you blend it, you get a goopy mess not a watery one.


Step 7: Sieve the results from step 6.

For me this was the fun part. You can use whatever you want as far as it can sieve things. Me, I used a white handkerchief, which I place over my bowl and poured the goop over it.
After which, I squeezed the handkerchief  with my hands until all the water came out. This is the first product :COCONUT MILK.

Coconut Milk

Step 8:Refrigerate the Coconut Milk for 24 hours.

This part also requires discretion. Some sites recommended as little as 5 hours ,however,I preferred the 24 hours so that it could separate properly.
Now for the sad part, some sites recommended leaving the milk in the fridge. While some said leave out in the open. I divided it  in half and put one in the fridge and one in my room.

One did not go well, the one in my room fermented and I had to throw it away 😭, I shed a few tears.
I had only about half of my milk to work with, which affected the amount of oil I got.

Step 9:Separate the coconut butter from the coconut water(?).

Now after 24 hours, you will see a top layers of pure white and a buttom almost colorless layer. The top layer is the second product :COCONUT BUTTER.

Coconut Butter

The lower layer is the third product :COCONUT WATER (I don’t know the name,  I am guessing).

Step 10: Heat the butter to get your OIL.

Now the coup de gras, take the butter, and get yourself a pot, preferably a non-stick one. Put it on low heat and start frying the butter while stirring it continuously.

I fried the one in the picture below for about an hour. Fry until you can see small brown ball like residue(this stuff is edible, I don’t know what it is sha).

Separate your oil into a container, don’t cover it until it cools down completely though.
So this is my final product. Bear in mind that this is from less than half of my coconut milk. If you make yours you will get at least twice this.

I really think that the whole experience was worth it. I shall  be making another batch soon,now that I am wiser.

Any questions you have please ask in the comments and I shall answer.
Also please do tell me when you make yours.