5 Things I am Grateful for

Hi everyone, it feels great to be back, I was under the weather for the better half of last week.

I couldn’t even put out a post on Friday. I am feeling much better though and ready to tackle this week head on.

Sunday was the 50th day of 2017. It’s no big deal but I am grateful, especially after being sick. Which is why I decided to list the 5 things I am grateful for so far.

1. Sewing -I have always wanted to learn how to sew. It’s just a curiosity that has never left and I’m grateful that I am doing just that now.

I have been doing it for almost a month now and I am progressing quickly – not to toot my own horn- my instructor says so.

I have a dream that one day I won’t have to spend a lot of money on clothes. A dream that one day I will sew everything I want and my mama will be jealous 😈.

2. My Blog – How much love I have for my blog is often underestimated. I am the kind of person who overthinks every little thing and wonders ‘what will people think’ ?, ‘is it good enough’ or ‘am I good enough’ ?.

My blog exhausts me and sometimes I want to take a break but, that tiny smile at the corner of my mouth when I am writing a post or when I get a comment – it’s worth it.

The fact that I am still blogging is a testament to my growing up. Yes, I still panic and feel insecure about myself and the blog sometimes but Ada is getting there!

3. Repj360 – This is the name of my friends’ band (yes my friends are in a band, I am cool like that😎).

Seriously though, it’s easy to give up on your artistic dreams given the way our country regards creatives. It is okay to be a Doctor, Lawyer or Accountant (not that there’s anything wrong with these professions) ,people are always praying for God to help you.

Mention a mixtape however, and what you will hear is ‘this one is not serious’ or ‘you just wasted your parents money’.

These guys keep pushing through and I am really proud of them.  I wish I could support them more but I do too little (God help Me). They have 2 singles and a love mash up which are all wonderful but don’t take my word for it, go to their website and check them out for yourself.

4. My KStote bag – Anyone who reads my blog will know that I am a little a lot obsessed with this bag.

NO I am not being paid to advertise but I am super excited that it’s on its way FINALLY!!!! and I think I will do a style post on it soooooooon.

I absolutely love the inscription on it, it’s artsy and inspirational but not pretentious,  can’t wait to show you guys.

5. My Family – This may sound cliché but I don’t care. I love these people because in their own individual way each one of them has annoyed, inspired and loved me.

I’m grateful, for my DD who always asks about my blog even though he has no idea what it’s s about, for my mama who makes me laugh and who I fight with everyday, for CA who is my third pair of eyes and whose random suggestions are always great and manage to fuel my creativity, for EA who is my photographer and my proofreader (I don’t know what I will do when you guys go back to school) and finally for G.O. who should really show more interest in my blog 😒, but is my IG day 1 nigga.

I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH

What are you grateful for, even if you can only name one, I assure you it will go a long way. 

Let me know in the comments. 

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Why you should Love your Accent: This Igbo girl’s view .

Let’s Talk about my Accent.

I have an igbo accent, well not really but when I pronounce some words you can tell I am from the eastern part of Nigeria and I am proud of it.

I really don’t know why people see accents as a mark of intelligence.When I was in school I really abhorred all those girls that used to put ‘R’ everywhere in the name of sounding tush – ‘whort is that‘.

The ones that killed me were our American accents- Oh my God. How do you have the accent of a country you have never been to. Even those who have stayed there a while only have slight accents.

Someone who spent a single summer of their 19 year life in Chelsea will now be speaking with an accent- B*tch please.

A person’s language patterns develop fully by the time they are eleven or twelve, so their base accent will always be the same.

Now of course if you are in a certain place it will affect your speech, intonation and what not. But for God’s sake don’t come here and be giving us horrible accents after a 2 week vacation.

Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with improving elocution. Learning to speak so that people everywhere can easily decipher what you say. However, ridding yourself of your accent should not be your primary goal.

I always make fun of accents, I poke fun at myself when I say ‘Craydeet’ instead of ‘Credit’😄.No matter what part of the country you are from, I will probably laugh at your accent.

Now I don’t do it to be mean but I think it is one of those cultural quirks that amuse and define us at the same time. The same way I find Yoruba Agbadas funny because of the movements involved in keeping them at a place.

I laugh at igbo people that have ‘R and L factor’ . My friends laugh at me because I can’t say ‘Surulere’without biting my tongue 😢. I don’t mind because it’s just one of those things. The same way I laugh at their ‘H factor’ incidents.

At the end of the day i never assume anybody is stupid because of how they speak English. It’s not our mother tongue and if not for colonization, we have no business speaking it.

I am more inclined to believe that those people with their synthetic ‘accents’are the stupid ones. There more productive things to do than waste time trying to sound like someone else and failing woefully at it.

So embrace that your accent, improve your vocabulary and don’t apologize for the way you sound.

” An accent is someone speaking your language with the rules of their language ” – Trevor Noah Click To Tweet

What is your take on accents?

Let me know your views on this post, because I know some of you will disagree.

5 THINGS I REGRET NOT DOING IN SCHOOL

So, I am feeling a bit sad today, so I decided to post things I regret. I racked my brain and I am thankful to God that I could only come up with five.

Making this list has really made me consider my life choices.I feel there is still time to make sure this list remains short, so here goes:

1.Seizing more experience     opportunities

I regret not joining a school club like ENACTUS while I was in school. In my defense I was busy with my coursework, but I could have made it work if I wanted to.

2.Making more friends  

I love the friends I have now, but maybe I could have made more. They might not have been close friends but acquaintances, because I am now realizing that networking is a big deal.

Then again I am really bad at keeping in contact, I call my bestfriend like 4 times in a month.

3.Caring less about how people perceived me

In many ways I am still guilty of this. I keep thinking ‘ what will people think’ .I wasn’t sure I wanted my friends to read the blog when I started it.

The thoughts in my head were – what if it wasn’t good enough or witty enough or funny enough .I think my greatest fear in life is to be thought of as unkind or unintelligent.

4.Never singing solo in church 

Okay I know I may very well still get to do this. I regret not doing it in the church after my own heart GRACE chapel, Babcock university.

I can talk to a stadium full of people but as long as I am prepared I feel fine. Singing in front of just ten people makes me lightheaded ,so I never sang solo even though ever semester I promised myself I would.

5.Never learnt how to play a musical instrument 

My friends taught themselves how to play guitars. Which is super cool but I didn’t learn, why? – please refer to flimsy excuse given in number 1. They would have been more than happy to teach me but I never gave them time.

“Make the most of your regrets; Never smother your sorrow but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh” -Henry David Thoreau Click To Tweet

Do you have anything you regret too?  Let me know in the comments.

Also does anyone have any advice for avoiding and moving on from regrets. Please don’t hesitate to share.